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We are living in days where opinions abound. Everyone has one and is willing to share them with anyone who lends an ear. Let’s be honest … we cannot agree with everyone. Some people have wisdom and discernment, the words they share offering guidance and encouragement. Some … not so much.

Recently the question was asked of me: “How are we to deal with stupid people?” It’s a really good question as we encounter and interact with people all day long, all of our lives.

The question nagged for a few days and soon the question became, “How are we to handle and respond stupid people?” Let me share a story from Scripture.

There was a rich and prosperous man in the Old Testament named Nabel. Depending on the Bible translation one uses, he is described as “brutish and mean” (MSG); “harsh and evil (NASB); “surly and mean” (NIV); “crude and mean” (NLT); “harsh and badly behaved” (ESV).

To be clear, his name – Nabel – literally means “fool” according to the Old Testament Hebrew Lexicon.

Contrast this with his wife, Abigail, who is described as “intelligent and good-looking” (MSG); “intelligent and beautiful” (NASB and NIV); “sensible and beautiful” (NLT); “discerning and beautiful” (ESV).

The intelligent and beautiful Abigail married the harsh, mean, and stupid Nabel.

Let’s look into the story, found in 1 Samuel 25, to find clues of how to handle such a person.

Given the time frame of the story, this was most probably an arranged marriage. Abigail was in an unhappy marriage not of her doing or by her choice.

After David and his men had done right by Nabel, protecting his herds and herdmen, David asked for some food for his men. Nabel responded in a most insulting and ungracious manner which sparked anger and vengeance in David.

Upon hearing of David’s response, Abigail jumped into action to smooth the matter over. She herself brought food and wine, meat and grain to David and his men. Her actions diffused the situation and saved not only her husband’s life but the life of his men.

Abigail’s actions brings us several insights when handling stupid people:

  • Words must be chosen carefully and wisely so as not to exacerbate a situation. Abigail approached David humbly, appealing to David’s good sense.
  • Don’t argue with a stupid person. Abigail did not enter into an argument or a debate in an effort to change Nabel’s mind. She let him be and quietly did what needed to be done to diffuse a heated situation.
  • Recognize the shortcomings of others. Abigail knew the lack of character in her husband. I know Nabal is a wicked and ill-tempered man; please don’t pay any attention to him. He is a fool, just as his name suggests” (1 Samuel 25:25, NLT). In recognizing Nabel’s lack of character, she knew she had to take action to make up for his lack of wisdom.
  • Continue to encourage others to put life situations into perspective. Abigail encouraged David to put the events which had angered him into perspective, thus helping him to respond wisely rather than reactionary.

As I have looked at this story and thought upon it, I have come to realize that stupid people will always exist. There will always be those with whom we cannot agree or come to a compromise. We cannot control their actions but we can control our own reactions and choices.

May we surround ourselves with people of wisdom and character,
thus working past the foolishness (or stupidity) we encounter in life.

“Stupid people always think they are right.
Wise people listen to advice.”
(Proverbs 12:15, GNT)

 

** This post is dedicated to those who are transparent and willing to ask the hard questions and make me think a little deeper. Praying for you today – may God give you all you need to handle the people you interact with each day!

 

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